The problem with resolutions is that by Jan 30th . . . they are irrelevant! You have no time to squeeze anything new or different into your daily routine. “Why is that?” The reason is that the word “resolution” is a noun. A noun is a “
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Self-doubt can eat way at your heart, mind and soul . . . little by little. Before you realize it, you start second-guessing every decision you make. Self-doubt causes fear, anxiety, and self-hate. Self-doubt slowly replaces self-esteem. And that lack of confidence leads to grief. The five stages of grief can apply at any time regardless of the situation:
- Denial– Low energy, unable to concentrate or move forward
- Anger– Too much energy focused on the wrong things
- Bargaining– Trying to go back to the way things were
- Depression– Out of energy, procrastination, hopelessness
- Acceptance– Perspective has adjusted, change is ahead
The best way to know if you have reached the acceptance stage is if you can talk about the experience objectively without the emotions. At times, some of us get stuck in one stage for years; while others can accept, adapt, and move on quite easily . . . that’s because everyone is different!
The best defense to self-doubt is to stay positive! Write a brief statement about your key accomplishments using action words. Revise, refine, and rehearse it out loud until you can powerfully deliver the statement. You control your outlook and attitude. Take inventory of your talents, skills, and knowledge. Practice positive affirmations, believe in yourself, surround yourself with positive people, and channel any frustration into motivation!
The immortal human soul is endowed with two means of perception. One is effected through instrumentality, the other, independently. For instance, the soul sees through the instrumentality of the eye, hears with the ear, smells through the nostrils and grasps objects with the hands. These are the actions, powers, or operations of the soul through instruments.
But in the world of dreams . . . the soul sees when the eyes are closed. The soul journeys, perceives, and senses. It often happens that a man in a state of wakefulness is not been able to accomplish the solution of a problem, and when he goes to sleep, he reaches the solution in a dream.
Perhaps the reason why you have not accomplished what you envisioned is the extent you look upon your own weaknesses and inabilities. It is important to remember to disregard your own handicaps and lay your whole reliance upon God. He will come to your help if you only arise and become an active channel for God’s grace. This is the reason why so many competent souls suddenly find themselves absolutely powerless, ineffective, and thrown aside by the Spirit of their Faith as useless souls. Stay on alert to have the Will of God operate through you!
If the mirror on your wall could speak . . . what would it say? Will the mirror say that you smile at it everyday, or will the mirror say you are always “grumpy” . . . even on your birthday? Will your mirror “call you out” and tell secrets that you dare to share with anyone? Or will your mirror compliment you on a “job well done”?
Maybe your mirror will tell about family, visitors, and friends it saw and the way you treated them. Maybe the mirror heard awful conversations about you from these people. Maybe the mirror heard praises about how they felt loved, how they felt welcomed, how great the food was, or how beautiful the place was, etc. Maybe the mirror will tell that no ever visits and you have no interaction with others.
Would your mirror speak of your kindness, understanding, and generosity or would it speak of your selfishness, envy, and unhappiness? Would your mirror say it barely sees you complain or would it say you are in its face all day . . . whining? Would your mirror say you accept the truth or would it say you cover things up? Would your mirror say that it feels like a confidant or would it say it does not know you at all? How would the mirror on your wall critique you?
I leave you with words of encouragement this last day of the month. The positive affirmation for January is about preparing for tomorrow, being honest to yourself, controlling what you can control, and new beginnings. The first step is not the hardest, although it may seem that way. It will be the remaining steps that will carry the innumerable challenges and obstacles.
Those remaining steps will require time, research, patience, understanding, and wisdom. Each step will bring you a step closer to your tomorrow! It may be a slow process, and sometimes it may seem impossible to accomplish, but with faith and determination . . . nothing is impossible!
You don’t have to prove to anyone that you are on the fast track! No need starting off sprinting, save that energy for the last lap. Keep a steady pace and breathe, before you know it . . . you are at the finish line. You, (literally and figuratively), have to crawl before you can walk. Walk before you can run. Run before you can leap. So please, step before you leap into anything . . . including relationships!
“It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.” ~Old Chinese Proverb