Self-doubt can eat way at your heart, mind and soul . . . little by little. Before you realize it, you start second-guessing every decision you make. Self-doubt causes fear, anxiety, and self-hate. Self-doubt slowly replaces self-esteem. And that lack of confidence leads to grief. The five stages of grief can apply at any time regardless of the situation:
- Denial– Low energy, unable to concentrate or move forward
- Anger– Too much energy focused on the wrong things
- Bargaining– Trying to go back to the way things were
- Depression– Out of energy, procrastination, hopelessness
- Acceptance– Perspective has adjusted, change is ahead
The best way to know if you have reached the acceptance stage is if you can talk about the experience objectively without the emotions. At times, some of us get stuck in one stage for years; while others can accept, adapt, and move on quite easily . . . that’s because everyone is different!
The best defense to self-doubt is to stay positive! Write a brief statement about your key accomplishments using action words. Revise, refine, and rehearse it out loud until you can powerfully deliver the statement. You control your outlook and attitude. Take inventory of your talents, skills, and knowledge. Practice positive affirmations, believe in yourself, surround yourself with positive people, and channel any frustration into motivation!
WHAT have you done today in preparation for tomorrow?
Stop waiting until the end of the year to begin setting goals. Begin now, one day at a time with a positive affirming monthly theme and weekly goal. Concentrate on the daily tasks that you must accomplish. List the things you need to do to get them finished. Do it now, do not procrastinate, and check off each item you complete. Review your list often to assist in keeping you on track. In this first month start implementing the three techniques emphasized:
- Positive Affirmation: Trust God in ALL situations
- Goal Setting: Goals can be big or small, few or many
- Action: DOING leads you toward your goals
The positive affirmation for the month is what are you talking about? But the real question for you to ask yourself is “who is listening”?
Are you the recipient of one-sided conversations? At work, at home, with family or friends; always there to listen to someone else. But when it is time for you to tell someone about your happiness … are they happy for you? When times are bad… are they there to console you?
Probably not! Because they were not listening to you.
Meaningful conversations have benefits. Benefits that include building and fostering meaningful relationships, a sounding board for new ideas or decisions, the ability to speak openly and honestly, and most importantly . . . changes how we see the world around us.
Although conversations happen everyday of your life, almost half of them are meaningless. Meaningful conversations can make a big difference to the quality of your life. Ask yourself . . . are those conversations worth your time? How much time can you save by eliminating meaningless conversations on a daily basis? Think of all the free time you can have doing something else.
If you are a great listener . . . find someone to talk to! If you are a great talker . . . start listening!