Yes, seriously . . . How do you define ugly?
- By Physical Appearance – do you define someone as ugly because of looks. Based on the People who may be unattractive in appearance and unappealing to you . . . probably don’t consider themselves as unattractive! And you know others who are beautiful, but are never satisfied with the way they look. the aybe it is based on skin color, hair . . . maybe their clothing or shoes.
- By Attitude – do you define someone as ugly because of actions. Based on their selfishness and lack of concern for others. Could it be how mean they treat others including their own families, friends, children, etc. Maybe it is how materialistic, negative, and pessimistic they are most of the time and the “self-pity party” attitude. An attractive face means nothing with a rotten attitude.
- By Character Traits – do you define someone as ugly because of behavior. By watching how they interact with the world and paying attention to how they treat and interact with you. Could they be filled with jealousy, envy, greed, and/or dishonesty. Maybe they are bossy, conceited, self-centered, and rude. Their lack of values and beliefs would conflict with anyone who has a value and belief system.
Remember that physical appearance alone . . . does not define a person. And an attitude can be checked and/or corrected with the right information or education . . . sometimes. But character traits are who they truly are. It is their personality, their consciousness, and their way of thinking. When someone shows you who they truly are, whether good, bad or ugly . . . believe them!
It is evident, everyday, that many things are out of our control. The weather, other people, and situations. Our present civilization is out of control . . . through forces it neither understands nor can control. Only God has absolute control over His creations as well as perfect and complete knowledge of it.
All you can control is yourself and how you will respond! Based on your attitude which stems from your culture, your upbringing, your memories, your experiences, and your spiritual qualities. Striving for conscious change of attitude do not occur without effort. Will and desire are not created by intellectual discussion, it is through deep and profound reflection by each individual to look within themselves.
There will be many obstacles in your way as you strive to maintain control. You may be shy, fearful to speak or act, you may find it difficult to express your thoughts, but you will gradually overcome if you understand to give freely of that which is most dear to you . . . control!