I’ve noticed throughout my years that conversations mainly fall into three categories. It doesn’t really matter if the conversations are global or local, work-related, family oriented, or personal. There is no regard to the intellectual level of the discussion nor subject matter. The outcome of the conversation depends on who you talk to, the attitude and response of that person . . . and why you chose that person for a conversation!
The person who is not listening to you has no feedback! This person is only pretending to listen and is busy with “anything else.” The conversation is usually dominated by this person asking for a solution to their issues. Before you know it, their priorities are your priorities and you still need to talk to someone. You will be unable to share your big dreams and goals with this type of individual . . . because they truly don’t care, unless it is a benefit to them.
The person who is barely listening to you may provide unwanted feedback! That person might stop what they are doing to listen to you, but they got their own problems. Whatever the problem, it is the highlight of their day and nothing else matters. That person only has negative responses to every positive thing you discuss. This type of person is not honest because of their own insecurities, jealousy, or unhappiness! This person may say you are important . . . but you are not treated as a priority!
The person who is truly listening to you will provide valuable feedback! That person will stop whatever they are doing to give you their full attention. That person will share the positives and negatives with you so you can make the best decision or action plan to move forward. She or he will tap into their own life to share valuable resources or wisdom with you. Or just listen to you without any judgment! That person will support you whether they agree with you or not . . . because of unconditional love. This type of person is a rare find . . . of pure heart, loyal, and dedicated.
WHAT are you talking about?
Make your daily conversations meaningful. Measure how much these conversations are worth and the benefit to you. Often these conversations are just a way to distract you from what you need to be doing. Do not fill your hours and days with conversations that are not positive and uplifting. Communication is important. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Demand the same from others who want you to listen to them. Ask them to clarify what they are talking about. Rephrase what you think they mean to eliminate misunderstandings. Talk about your goals and dreams, not about current events and other people. Small minds talk about people. Average minds talk about events. Great minds talk about ideas.
When doubt starts to take over your thoughts . . . you start to lose the confidence in the power you have. You start second guessing the decisions you so firmly supported. Regardless of how the doubt crept into your mind, it is there! So where is the source of this doubt? Was the doubt spoken to you by another person? Or is it self-doubt? Nevertheless, you got to do something about it!
If doubt defeats your confidence, game over! You will feel powerless and will have to start from the beginning in rebuilding the confidence you already gained. If doubt is removed little by little with confidence, guess what? . . . You are still in the game! You have confidence in your powers and doubt is used only as an advisor! A bit of doubt makes you practice, research, check all facts, and take all things into consideration before moving forward.
If confidence defeats doubt, that’s when you get the extra bonus points! This is another level of the game in which only a few successfully achieve and maintain. You will display confidence in all you do and that is powerful! You will have no doubts concerning God’s powers versus your powers. Your eyes will be open and you will consider His clear evidence. There will be no doubt that you will find yourself endowed with a new confidence, a new power. With so rich an endowment, how can your endeavors fail?
I recently came across my biography and paused to read it. I was impressed by my achievements, awards, and accomplishments. I was proud of my higher learning degrees, professional memberships, and community service. It acknowledged my years of service and commitment to my career.
As I think about the next phase of my journey toward retirement, I no longer desire a biography of the past. People will expect me to continue on this same path in the future. They won’t understand that all the power I gained and skills I used to build my biography . . . I want to leave behind in order to use new powers; powers of peace and contentment.
When you read my “autobiography” . . . I want you to read that I took moments for myself, traveled, smiled, and spent time with family and friends. I want you to read that I took time to reset my clock, I moved forward at my pace, and I utilized new powers! The future is just that . . . new time to leave your proven powers behind or expand them to the next level. I bet even Superman got bored from checking everyone out with his x-ray vision!
WHAT are you doing with your powers?
Only you can prevent the drama in your life. You have the power to choose how you will react in every situation you encounter. Focus on the attributes and spiritual gifts that God has given you.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses and thank God for both!
Watch out when you put your powers into action. You will excel in all tasks. Like a superhero you can accomplish all things with minimum stress and maximum success by using your God-given powers.
I am re-posting from February of last year as it is still so relevant this year, asking the question, what characteristics make up your power? If you read this last year, thank you for continuing to follow W.H.A.T.!™. If this is your first time . . . enjoy!
This month’s positive affirmation is about the characteristics that make up your powers. There will be times in life when outside forces can bring no help. It will be all up to you! Below are some resources within yourself to use or tap into to become even more powerful than you are today!
- Self-Love – Without love of self, it will be impossible to love others … and God for creating you. You have to see the beauty within yourself in order to appreciate all beauty.
- Self-Confidence – You must maintain belief and trust in yourself in whatever you chose to do. You must also reassure others that you can do it.
- Self Awareness – You must let go of all pride and ego. You have to “check” yourself on a regular basis. This includes your health, your attitude, and finances, etc.
- Self-Improvement – This should be a continuous process until you leave this earth . . . enough said!
- Self-Esteem –Unless you value and respect yourself . . . no one else will. Know your self-worth, and know that no one can take that from you. Your appearance and attitude will also play an important role.
A most praiseworthy characteristic of those who walk humbly is their willingness to learn and a positive attitude! Try to free yourself of self-imposed limitations in opportunities to acquire insight and knowledge. And constantly strive to develop qualities that will help your powers become increasingly effective!
January’s positive affirmation is about preparing and putting into action the things you would like to accomplish for the coming year by goal setting. In order to do that, you have to plan and act accordingly hour by hour, day by day, week by week, and month by month. Sounds impossible, I know, but when you procrastinate . . . another year is gone by! The purpose of February’s positive affirmation is for you to truly look deeper inside yourself and your daily thought process in order to carry out those goals.
We are all blessed with skills and abilities that lie dormant because of life, work, family, or health conflicts! Or worse, you are given your skills away for pennies on the dollar, you are under appreciated, under valued, and over worked! Maybe, your skills are “paying the bills” . . . (for now). But life is everyday and how you make it through each day should matter.
Your skills and abilities are the ingredients of your individuality. And whether you repeat that skill every day or once in a while it is practice. But always remember that, “practice does not make perfect . . . practice is just preparing you to do better in that skill!” So if you got the skills bake that bread, run that marathon, sell those products, start that garden, sing that song, play that instrument, open that business, mentor those students, start that class, write that book, climb that mountain . . . whatever!
The time is now to start waking up every morning “feeling blessed and less stressed” and tap into those dormant skills you haven’t used in a while, enhance each skill, or develop new ones. Make each day productive to you . . . and remember it is one hour, one day, one week, or one month closer to your goal!