Who Are You Talking To?
I’ve noticed throughout my years that conversations mainly fall into three categories. It doesn’t really matter if the conversations are global or local, work-related, family oriented, or personal. There is no regard to the intellectual level of the discussion nor subject matter. The outcome of the conversation depends on who you talk to, the attitude and response of that person . . . and why you chose that person for a conversation!
The person who is not listening to you has no feedback! This person is only pretending to listen and is busy with “anything else.” The conversation is usually dominated by this person asking for a solution to their issues. Before you know it, their priorities are your priorities and you still need to talk to someone. You will be unable to share your big dreams and goals with this type of individual . . . because they truly don’t care, unless it is a benefit to them.
The person who is barely listening to you may provide unwanted feedback! That person might stop what they are doing to listen to you, but they got their own problems. Whatever the problem, it is the highlight of their day and nothing else matters. That person only has negative responses to every positive thing you discuss. This type of person is not honest because of their own insecurities, jealousy, or unhappiness! This person may say you are important . . . but you are not treated as a priority!
The person who is truly listening to you will provide valuable feedback! That person will stop whatever they are doing to give you their full attention. That person will share the positives and negatives with you so you can make the best decision or action plan to move forward. She or he will tap into their own life to share valuable resources or wisdom with you. Or just listen to you without any judgment! That person will support you whether they agree with you or not . . . because of unconditional love. This type of person is a rare find . . . of pure heart, loyal, and dedicated.