Self-Doubt Is No Fun!
Self-doubt can eat way at your heart, mind and soul . . . little by little. Before you realize it, you start second-guessing every decision you make. Self-doubt causes fear, anxiety, and self-hate. Self-doubt slowly replaces self-esteem. And that lack of confidence leads to grief. The five stages of grief can apply at any time regardless of the situation:
- Denial– Low energy, unable to concentrate or move forward
- Anger– Too much energy focused on the wrong things
- Bargaining– Trying to go back to the way things were
- Depression– Out of energy, procrastination, hopelessness
- Acceptance– Perspective has adjusted, change is ahead
The best way to know if you have reached the acceptance stage is if you can talk about the experience objectively without the emotions. At times, some of us get stuck in one stage for years; while others can accept, adapt, and move on quite easily . . . that’s because everyone is different!
The best defense to self-doubt is to stay positive! Write a brief statement about your key accomplishments using action words. Revise, refine, and rehearse it out loud until you can powerfully deliver the statement. You control your outlook and attitude. Take inventory of your talents, skills, and knowledge. Practice positive affirmations, believe in yourself, surround yourself with positive people, and channel any frustration into motivation!