The hardest conversation to have is with yourself! WHY? Because it is easier to talk yourself into something . . . that is not good for you. AND just as easy to talk yourself out of something . . . that is good!
What do I mean by that? Well, look at self in the two senses or meanings. One is self . . . in the flesh, the identity of the individual created by God. The other self is the ego, the animalistic heritage each one of us has, the nature that can develop into a monster of selfishness, brutality, lust and so on. It is this self we struggle against everyday, in order to strengthen and free the spirit within us and help it to attain peace.
In one of the writings of Abdu’l-Bahá it states, the wrong in the world continues to exist because people talk only of their ideals, and do not strive to put them into practice. If actions took the place of words, the world’s misery would very soon be changed into comfort. A man who does great good, and talks not of it . . . is on the right path. The man who has accomplished a small good and magnifies it in his speech . . . is not.
Some people make announcements about the good they do, multiplying fine words together because they wish to be thought greater and better than others. Just to seek acceptance in the eyes of this world. Those who do the most good use the fewest words concerning their actions. These are the ones who do God’s works and obey God’s laws.
Don’t ask yourself what the world needs . . . Ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go do it! Because what the world needs is people who have come alive . ~ Harold Thurman Whitman, Philosopher & Theologian
Words spoken and words heard are ways of communication. However, the spoken word has the greatest impact on the overall conversation. It is those words that transforms hearts, minds, and souls. If we fail to use the right words, we run the danger of entering into arguments with others.
It is not uncommon for people to hold certain beliefs and, at the same time, say things that basically contradict those beliefs. It is not easy to be consistent. We all have habits of the mind, formed throughout our lives, that cause us to say things without thinking about them. As you acquire knowledge, it will be worthwhile from time to time to examine the validity of your words.
People are not some abstract entity called humanity. Nor are people empty containers just waiting to be filled up with information. Everyone has their own hopes and aspirations, their own fears and difficulties. It is to the soul to which one must speak in order to ignite a spark … a spark that will assist one in reaching true understanding!
WHAT are you talking about?
Make your daily conversations meaningful. Measure how much these conversations are worth and the benefit to you. Often these conversations are just a way to distract you from what you need to be doing. Do not fill your hours and days with conversations that are not positive and uplifting. Communication is important. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Demand the same from others who want you to listen to them. Ask them to clarify what they are talking about. Rephrase what you think they mean to eliminate misunderstandings. Talk about your goals and dreams, not about current events and other people. Small minds talk about people. Average minds talk about events. Great minds talk about ideas.