Is it Possible to Lie to Yourself?


Is it Possible to Lie to Yourself? This was a question that was a part of a study circle that I tutor with my daughter and her friend.  I gave an emphatic “no”. My daughter’s friend who is 12 years old said “yes”. And then went on to explain that it is possible, people do it every day and gave an example. 

I sat dumbfounded for a minute thinking about the question again. And agreed with her answer only because of the word “possible.” I guess “it is possible.” The concept of lying was beaten out of me as a young child by my mother when I told my first lie to her.  I didn’t lie to others due to fear of my mom getting the belt. But to lie to yourself, this seemed impossible to me. How do you do that?  . . . Especially to yourself!

But as my daughter’s friend explained, people do it everyday. Honesty is not a virtue everyone possesses. People live the lie they tell themselves and expect others to believe in it. They lie to themselves about their unhappy marriages, their unruly children, their money situation, their health, their weight, their future, even their attitude. But who are they hurting . . . themselves!

The goal is to be honest to yourself! It will be highly rewarding and you should make every effort to do so. Without this realization, you will feel overwhelmed, discouraged, and you will abandon any attempt to the truth.


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