Being Selfish

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The majority of us are very unselfish, always putting others first.  We perform selfless acts, looking for nothing in return.  But then something happens  . . . which transforms the understanding of the word “selfish” to us, individually!

In all my years (I’m not that old, well kind of), I learned for the first time about being selfish last year when I had to advocate for my health.  Things that existed in my life in 2012,  no longer exist in 2013  . . . except me!  The job which I worked hard and long hours, the religion I followed since the age of 17, the numerous committees I served, the many events I coordinated, the fair weather friends, etc . . .  gone.  Just like 2012.

I was so selfish, I had the time to trademark and copyright W.H.A.T.!with Elaine.  Because I put myself first, this site was created where we can inspire and connect with new people globally.  We were so selfish that we co-authored a book together and had a successful book launch event.  Actually, it is a monthly pocket planner, but back to the point.  

In all of this selfishness, nothing but unselfish acts were executed.  Service to others is always at the forefront of everything we do.  However, prioritizing is a priority!  Being selfish was the priority.  Now, I have more time for my children, the bond my husband and I have is stronger, my faith is renewed, and those who love or appreciate me, I have the time to love or appreciate them back.

The theme for February is about characteristics.  I would never use the word selfish to describe me, but now I can say . . . I have tried it and it felt good! There should be no regrets for putting yourself first . . .  once in a lifetime

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The W.H.A.T.!™ Women Helping Affirm Themselves! Monthly Pocket Planner has no dates . . . only monthly positive affirmations and weekly goals. The planner is the perfect size to fit in a tote or purse to carry everywhere! Along with weekly grids, there is also space for "W.H.A.T.!™ Notes" . . . pages to journal your goals and a website to share your thoughts. The W.H.A.T.!™ Monthly Pocket Planner hopes to create a blueprint designed to build self-esteem through positive insight and practical information. The goal is to establish monthly discussions to help others with similar concerns discover solutions. W.H.A.T.!™ is for the benefit of all who have triumphed successfully over life's challenges. Copyright © 2012 W.H.A.T.!™. All Rights Reserved About the Authors: Ms. Elaine Aiken-Riley is a Director of Career Services at a community college. She has worked as a mentor, counselor, and adjunct. She received her Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology and is currently pursuing a Doctorate in Education. With over twenty years of counseling experience, she helps students to look beyond their limitations and to build on their strengths. Her belief is: "The better we prepare ourselves, and the persistence we maintain in reaching our goals, the better we can become." Mrs. Vanessa Logan, Co-Founder of W.H.A.T.!™ Women Helping Affirm Themselves! is a Human Resources Manager with over 15 years experience. As a human resources specialist in the U.S. Army, she was recognized as the first enlisted private to receive an Army Commendation Medal in her battalion because of her exceptional customer service. After her enlistment; she earned two Associate degrees, a Bachelor's degree, and a Master of Business Administration degree. Vanessa loves participating in community events and is committed to personal spiritual growth and service to others.

3 responses to “Being Selfish”

  1. W.H.A.T.!™ Women Helping Affirm Themselves! says :

    Thank you. And I love your post on, “Don’t Fake the Funk.” Some people don’t realize that the only person they are lying to . . . is themselves. The sooner they face the truth with positive energy, the sooner they will heal.


  2. The Me Paradox says :

    I’m always thrilled to hear about people who finally realized the importance of self. Way to go! Woo Hoo ~ ~ ~ 🙂


  3. Melissa R. Harris says :

    I too need to be selfish and start putting myself first. Due to my upbringing, through my mother, I think about others before myself. The book launch was amazing! Proud of you Ness! Keep up the good work.


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